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    Former Guinness World Record Holder for largest book signing ever, Orrin Woodward is a NY Times bestselling author of And Justice For All along with RESOLVED & coauthor of LeaderShift and Launching a Leadership Revolution. His books have sold over one million copies in the financial, leadership and liberty fields. RESOLVED: 13 Resolutions For LIFE made the Top 100 All-Time Best Leadership Books and the 13 Resolutions are the framework for the top selling Mental Fitness Challenge personal development program.

    Orrin made the Top 20 Inc. Magazine Leadership list & has co-founded two multi-million dollar leadership companies. Currently, he serves as the Chairman of the Board of the LIFE. He has a B.S. degree from GMI-EMI (now Kettering University) in manufacturing systems engineering. He holds four U.S. patents, and won an exclusive National Technical Benchmarking Award.

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Will Smith – The Power of Believing

Posted by Orrin Woodward on January 18, 2011

When a person disciplines himself to align the conscious (ant) and subconscious (elephant) mind, success must happen. Willard Christopher Smith Jr. (Will Smith) is that type of person.  The actor and number one box office phenomena, has accomplished in Hollywood, something that has never been done before – eight consecutive movies have grossed over $100 million in revenue.  Smith learned early, to tap into his subconscious mind, aligning his ant and elephant.  Smith shares, “I don’t know what my calling is, but I want to be here for a bigger reason. I strive to be like the greatest people who have ever lived.”  Smith didn’t start with a silver spoon in his mouth, being born in a lower middle class West Philadelphia family, but he did start with something infinitely more powerful, a huge dream.  Smith’s dream to do something great filled him with hope, leading to an unquenchable hunger to learn.  Early in life, Smith learned the value of reading to borrow ideas from the greatest men and women who ever lived, stating, “The idea that there are millions and billions of people who have lived before us, and they had problems and they solved them and they wrote it in a book somewhere – there is no new problem that we can have that we have to figure out by ourselves. There’s no relationship issue, there is no issue with your parents or your brother or your government, there is no issue we can have that somebody didn’t already write a thousand years ago in a book. So, for me, that concept of reading is bittersweet because you know it’s in a book somewhere but you’ve got to find the right one that is going to give you the proper information.”

According to Smith, the turning point in his life happened at 16 years of age, after his first girlfriend cheated on him, “In my mind, she cheated because I wasn’t good enough. I remember making the decision that I will never not be good enough again.”  Instead of hosting his own pity party, Smith intuitively understood that massive success would be the best revenge, incubating, in his mind, a plan for world wide fame, fortune and excellence. How many other 16 year old kids respond to setbacks in this manner? Smith explains, “I think of the universe as this big, master computer,” he says. “The keyboard is inside each of us. I have a keyboard inside of me. I just have to figure out what to type, learn the code, to make the things happen that I want.”  Eschewing the engineering career available to him through attending MIT, Smith instead, partnered with DJ Jazzy Jeff, releasing their first album, while still in high school.  The pair’s PG-rated rap earned them the first ever Grammy award, for a hip-hop act.  Some may call this luck, but Smith, in an interview with Travis Smiley said, “Just decide, and the universe will get out of your way.  Your in a universe that says 2 + 2 = 4. 2 + 2 is going to be what I want it to be.”  Where others see limits, Smith trains his conscious and subconscious to imagine the limitless.  Remember, vision is tomorrow’s reality expressed as an idea today. Smith, displaying his vision for tomorrow, shared with Smiley, “I want to be an idea. I want to represent possibilities. I want to represent the idea that you really can make what you want.”

Later in his career, when Smith was on the set of the Ali movie, he had another breakthrough in the power of dreams and belief.  “When I was doing Ali, I realized that he kept saying, ‘I’m the greatest, I’m pretty,’ to make himself believe it,” Smith explains. “He doesn’t believe it, but he was dealing with racism. He was reacting to pain and rejection. He said it so much that he started to believe it. That’s what I’ve tried to do for myself.”  Aligning the conscious words, with the sub-conscious images, brings added power to all subsequent actions.  Will Smith’s success, is not by accident, but by design, a design available to all who hunger after a dream.  Smith understands the metaphysical nature of words, teaching himself to take command of his inner voice, “I said reading and running and the running aspect is how can you connect with your weakness. When you get on the treadmill you deprive yourself of oxygen. What kind of person you are will come out very, very quickly. You’re either the type of person who will say you’re going to run three miles or you stop the treadmill at 2.94 and you hit it and you call 2.94 3 miles, or you get off after a mile, or you’re the type of person that runs hard through the finish line and when you get to 3.0 you realize, ‘God, I could really do 5,’ and you go ahead and do two more. And that little person talks to you and says, ‘Man, do you feel our knee? We should stop. I feel we should stop ourselves right now. This is not healthy anymore.’ When you learn to get command over that person on that treadmill, you learn to get command over that person in your life.”  Smith took command of his inner voice, aligning his thoughts, talk and walk towards his goals and dreams, a true alignment of the ant and the elephant.

But Smith’s story isn’t a fairy tale of dream, victory and happily ever after story.  Rather, it’s more of an American Dream story, a kid with a huge dream, massive struggles, and sweet victories. A story similar to so many American Horatio Alger successes.  After winning his Grammy, Smith, still a teenager with no financial experiences, spent his income freely, leading to an Internal Revenue Services Audit, resulting in a Tax Lien of $2.8 million against his dwindling estate!  One can only imagine the pain and embarrassment felt by the young Smith, with the IRS seizing his assets and garnishing his future wages.  Few would have bounced back from this setback, but Smith’s vision refused to die, regardless of the challenges.  Facing the mockery of friends and nearing bankruptcy, Smith parlayed his popularity, as a Grammy winning rap act, into an NBC sitcom called, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. The series became an overnight hit, surging his career forward, erasing his financial setbacks through his vision, character and work ethic. This show set the foundation for Smith’s meteoric rise in the entertainment industry.  But Smith troubles were far from over, he also endured a difficult divorce, leading to a $900,000 lump sum settlement to his former wife and a $24,000 per month for alimony and child support.  The depth of the setback overcome is directly related to the depth of the character displayed.  People either get bitter or better during challenges.  Smith views setbacks like a broken down car on a road, “every once in a while it’s your turn to be broken down. And you wait for the tow truck to come. That’s how I viewed that difficult time in my life.”  Smith understood, that it isn’t what happens to him, but how he handled it that matters.  His unyielding belief in his mission is what helped him bounce back, “If it was something that I really committed myself to, I don’t think there’s anything that could stop me becoming President of the United States.”  This life changing belief comes from Smith’s conscious and subconscious working together, he expresses, “I want to represent the idea that you really can make what you want. I can create whatever I want to create, if I can put my head on it right,study, and learn the patterns.”

Both of these setbacks, a multi-million dollar tax lien, and a multi-million dollar divorce, could have knocked Smith down for the count, but instead, they only fueled his hunger to do and become more.  This is the power of the dream, turning rejection into further fuel for growth.  Only with true belief, formed when the conscious minds words align with subconscious minds images, will the multitude of setbacks, in the pursuit of any worthwhile dream, be overcome.  In fact, it’s the size of the dream that determines the size of the comeback.  What if Will Smith had surrendered to bankruptcy?  What if he would have surrendered to negativity, blaming the world for his problems?  This is exactly what the majority of people do when faced with setbacks, setbacks minuscule in proportion, to the ones faced and overcome by Smith.  One must never give up on a worthwhile goal or dream, never ever surrendering.  Smith set the goal early to become, “the biggest movie star in the world.”   In order to achieve this super sized dream, he had to overcome super sized obstacles.  Anyone desiring success at the highest levels must expect the same level of obstacles.  Remember, one becomes a champion long before the rest of society acknowledges it.  Smith explains that, “money and success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.”  In other words, power doesn’t corrupt, but only reveals character.

With the success of the Fresh Prince of Bel Air, one would have thought it an easy step into movies, but nothing is further from the facts. Despite his growing fame, Smith couldn’t buy a meeting with any of the studios or directors, having to work for over five years before successfully sitting down with a studio director.  In fact, Smith’s business partner James Lassiter, frustrated by the apparent lack of interest, explained the studios skepticism in this way, “Nobody cared. You’re a rapper. You got lucky, and you got this television show, but that’s all you can do.”  When Smith was asked, if he had ever thought of a Plan B during this time, since Plan A seemed closed to him, he responded, nearly horrified by the thought, “I don’t want to get too metaphysical, but by even contemplating a Plan B, you almost create the necessity for a Plan B.”  Smith is expressing the near mysterious power that a unified ant and elephant have in propelling people to their dreams.  He refused to contemplate a Plan B, knowing that by merely contemplating it, he was subconsciously surrendering his plan A, creating a civil war between the conscious and subconscious mind, a civil war that always leads to failure.

It’s been nearly twenty years since Smith made his sitcom splash as the humorous, fast-talking Fresh Prince.  Today, his films gross over $130 million per movie on average, making Smith one of the elite of the elite in his profession.  His most financially successful films have been Bad Boys, Bad Boys II, Independence Day, Men in Black, Men in Black II, I, Robot, The Pursuit of Happyness, I Am Legend, Hancock, Wild Wild West, Enemy of the State, Shark Tale, Hitch and Seven Pounds. He also earned critical praise for his performances in Six Degrees of Separation, Ali and The Pursuit of Happyness, receiving Best Actor Oscar nominations for the latter two. Smith discusses the connection between the proper thinking necessary for success, combined with the hard work necessary to complete the success:

“Paulo Coelho in The Alchemist, which is my favorite book, talks about the whole of the universe, and it’s contained in one grain of sand. For years I’ve been saying that, and now it’s really starting to expose itself to me. My own grain of sand has been my story. The next 10 years will be my peak of innovation in filmmaking and just as a human being.  I was reading Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers, and he talks about the concept of 10,000 hours. That you don’t really settle into any level of mastery until 10,000 hours, and I feel like I’ve just completed my 10,000 hours of story structure and filmmaking.”

It’s scary to imagine, what Smith can accomplish next, having already, at forty-two years of age, broken many of the all-time records.  But one thing the world should understand about Willard Christopher Smith Jr., is to never bet against him.  He has aligned his ant and elephant, charging ahead with a dream, forging onward with is superhuman work ethic, and believing in his dreams while others are doubting theirs. We can all learn from Smith, setting our sails based upon our dreams and goals, not merely the direction of the wind.  Just like Jesus describes in Matthew, verse 17:20, “Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.”  Isn’t it time to remove the mountains holding us back from our destiny? One final thought from Smith, “I consider myself and Alchemist. An Alchemist who took lead and made it gold.” Imagine if all of us, refusing to live with the lead in our lives, chose instead, to play the part of the alchemist, converting our leaden lives into golden ones.  What a difference we could make if we only believed by having faith. God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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High Achievers Make Work a Game

Posted by Orrin Woodward on January 14, 2011

The work necessary to win at the highest levels isn’t for sissies, but it can be developed by anyone. There is no shortcut past the 10,000 hours for mastery in any field, but there is a shortcut through the monotony, by making the work a game.  When work becomes a game, the tasks of the job become plays in the game. One will never work again, when the tasks are enjoyed as plays in a game.  The secret to mastery in any field, hinges upon learning to enjoy the deliberate practice, turning the grueling effort into play.  Think about a man, having to choose, on a hot autumn afternoon, between a game of tennis or raking the lawn.  One, can be played for hours, sweating profusely, enjoying the thrill of the game.  The other, is looked upon with dread, procrastinating as long as possible, completed only through sheer strength of will.  Why the difference?  Both require effort, both require discipline, both are exhausting, but one is fun, while the other is miserable.  This is the difference between play and work.  When you view work as a game, then you no longer do tasks, but plays in a game, with the specific intent to win the game.   All top performers have learned this principle, performers in business, sports, music, etc, have all mastered work as play.  Whether the name is Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Thomas Watson, Jerry Rice, Michael Jordan, and Hank Aaron, Garth Brooks, Josh Bell, or Steven Tyler, all of them, learned to make their profession a game, enjoying the deliberate practice to win in the game.  

This explains the paradox of how a few will work so hard, while others think that they are crazy.  It’s isn’t work to them, but enjoyment, winning another game.  Similar to all the weekend warriors, who give 100% effort into their weekend sports for not pay, but then return to their jobs or business at 50% effort.  The weekend warriors can give 100%, even though not payed anything, because they love the game.  The highly successful in life, have tapped into this reservoir of energy by creating a game out of their professions.  Imagine the productivity explosion, if everyone worked their professions as hard as their weekend sports and hobbies.

Ozzie Smith pictureOzzie Smith, the Hall of Fame baseball player, is an excellent example of turning the work into a game.  When he was a young, growing up in poverty, he loved the game of baseball.  Not having the best equipment, but wanting to develop his skills in fielding, Ozzie used his imagination, creating a game where he bounced a tennis ball off of his cement porch.  Ozzie challenged himself daily, moving closer and closer to the porch, testing his ability to field the tennis ball cleanly.   The goal was to field the ball rebounding off the porch, developing the hand eye coordination that made him a perennial Gold Glove performer.  By making it a game, Ozzie played for hours on end, hurling the ball at the porch, fielding again and again.  No coach would have asked the same level of discipline out of a Little League team, but since it was a game, it hardly felt like discipline at all.  Just a love of the game developed the hours of practice, developing mastery in fielding a baseball. Smith’s endless hours of deliberate practice, made him the best short stop fielder in baseball, handling line shots with ease, amazing the fans with his highly developed hand eye coordination.  Ozzie credited his game for developing the skills applied to his profession. Few, if any, will subject themselves to the endless hours of deliberate practice needed to win, unless they can mentally make it a game.  Ozzie made the practice a game, creating the skills while enjoying the time, a lesson that all winners must learn before they win.

If 10,000 hours is needed to master any field, and, if mastery is needed to perform at the highest levels, then, creating a game out of the deliberate practice is a key strategy for success. One must work hard, accepting no excuses, focusing on the long-term dreams, enduring the pain in the personal growth process, but the rewards are well worth the effort.  Rewards, that go way beyond the financial, and into the satisfaction obtained when one knows that he truly did his personal best in a worthy cause, allowing one to look in the mirror and see a winner staring back at him. The game is the shortcut through the countless hours, in the quest for excellence.  Identifying the field for mastery, determining the skills needed, developing the game to play, and, playing the game over and over, is the most enjoyable way to create mastery and thus excellence.  What are you waiting for?  Let the games begin. God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Creating a Learning Organization – Teachable Moments

Posted by Orrin Woodward on January 11, 2011

“Teachable Moments” are one of the quickest ways to create a learning organization, helping the entire team to learn from the many mistakes on the journey to excellence.  The attitude of learning organizations is, if we are going to make mistakes anyway, let’s go ahead and learn from them.  Learning organizations improve daily without playing the blame game or passing the buck. Only someone with significant results in the organization ought to apply the “Teachable Moment” process.  This is not a process for the blind to lead the blind, but one where leaders help others improve.  In other words, until one has performed, displaying by personal results that one is further down the leadership road, should the “teachable moments” process be employed.  A good rule of conduct, for students on their way to learning leadership, is to speak all the good that you can, never criticizing, condemning, or complaining to anyone.  The leader must have the respect of his team before the “teachable moments” process will produce the desired results.  With these caveats, let me share the eights steps for turning mistakes into “teachable moments”.  

1. Lead in personal change – model change before speaking to others about change.
2. Sit down with the person & express why you value them on the team.
3. Share the common vision of the change process to reach team goals.
4. Explain the changes needed for both of you to reach the team goals.
5. Point out areas where you have and are still changing and growing.
6. Point out areas where they have changed and grown in the past.
7. Unite around the common vision of how team will look after changes.
8. Lead by serving, asking, “How can I help you in this change process?”

The first step, is to lead in personal change first.  Never ask someone to change in an area that you are unwilling to change yourself.  This behavior breeds resentment within the community, as people believe, that you place yourself above the principles professed, expecting more out of them, than you are willing to do yourself.  As Ghandi said, “Be the change that you want to see in the world.”  Leaders must model the change process, so that everyone knows that the leaders, not only aren’t above the principles, but hold themselves to a higher standard on the principles espoused. As the Bible teaches, “To whom much is given, much is required.”  Leadership is more than just a title, it’s the working example for the rest of the team.  It’s what the principles look like, when applied in someone’s life.  Does your team see changes in your leadership on a regular basis?  Every month, certainly every year, the community ought to see the change process being lived out in your life, modeling the proper behaviors for the rest of the team.

The second step in the “teachable moment” process is when mistakes happen, sit down with them.  At first, this may sound scary, to both the leader and the team member, since few people, are comfortable addressing issues. The key here, is that sitting down, isn’t a criticism meeting, but a learning meeting.  Because all of us make mistakes, sitting down shouldn’t be a beat up session, but an opportunity to express value to the person, explaining the opportunity available to both of you to learn.  By sitting down, it gives the leader an opportunity to express the value that he places on the team members work, sharing that the goal is to help them advance even further.  When starting the meeting by sharing how much you accept, approve and appreciate his work, the ‘teachable moment’ will be accepted as positive feedback needed to improve performance further, not just criticism because of the mistake.  Let the team member know that you have made similar mistakes in the past, and still make plenty of mistakes, in the present, leading to “teachable moments”.  This sets people at ease, allowing them to truly listen to improve, instead of listening to defend.

The third step is to express the common vision shared and accomplished through changing the behaviors, techniques and principles applied.  The team, that the leader leads, can only win through a team effort.  There must be a common vision that aligns the team’s behaviors towards stated objectives.  By reviewing the common vision, it ensures that both parties are focusing on the same outcome, improving the team, not just negative criticizing of a teammate.  Be sure to point out to the teammate, how important his role is in the accomplishment of the team’s goals.  The more people feel that their role counts, and the more people feel the leaders are counting on them, the more that they will do to get the job done.  Most people will rise to the level of expectation placed upon them.  People want to do a good job, impressing their superiors with their attitude and results.  Only after completing these three critical steps, should anyone start course correcting a person’s behavior.

The fourth step is to address the behavior or thinking that needs changing.  At this point, the leader has affirmed the team member, helping his ego, handle the adjustment without feeling worthless, stupid, or unnecessary.  By creating a culture where mistakes aren’t fatal, but only part of the learning process, real change can occur quickly.  If someone is interrupting the speaker during meetings, so that no one can finish a point, then you may have to sit down with them.  After letting him know that you did in the past, and still do the same thing occasionally, being something that you have to work on constantly, this helps the team member feel that his load is no heavier than yours. If you changed, then he can too.  This is a much better result, than an argument where he defends his actions, stating that you are always criticizing him.  Or the other outcome, that the issue is never addressed, allowing the behavior to continue, leading to no “teachable moments” and little learning occurring in the organization.

The fifth step, is to ask questions, ensuring that they understand what is expected of them in the future and how they plan on improving.  During this discussion, it’s important to point out as many example of issues that you needed to improve in the past.  Not current issues, but issues solved over the years.  So many great examples follow the dream, struggle, victory process.  I share any examples where the full process is complete, but I don’t share where I have not achieved a victory yet.  The goal is to give the team member hope that after the struggle comes a huge victory.  The more people stay focused on their victories, vicariously learning from your victories, the more effort they will apply to overcome their poor behaviors, replacing with behaviors that produce results.

The sixth step, one that gives confidence and expectancy to the team member in the “teachable moments” is to point out other areas where they have already changed.  By taking the time to, not only notice, but point out to them, areas where you have seen growth, the team member feels appreciated and respected because you are displaying the value you have for them.  Let them know that the reason you are sitting down with them is because of your confidence in their hunger and willingness to change, that you are only sitting down with them because of the confidence that you have. The other strength in this step is that they feel, if they improved in other areas, that they can improve in this area.  Results can create momentum for further results.  The team member must feel that they can make the change, and, that you are counting on them to step up in this area for the betterment of themselves and the entire team.

The seventh step in the “teachable moments” process is to unite around the common vision for the team.  When teams have a bigger vision than any of the participants can accomplish on their own, it unites the team, driving change and growth.  Leaders must speak to the vision when sitting down with people.  This helps everyone understand and feel the direction the organization is heading.  The goal of the leader is to help the team member feel part of the vision, understanding the key role that they play in making the vision a reality.  The more the team member feels part of the team, accepting responsibility for his assignment, the more leverage that he will apply to himself to change.  It’s much easier to let yourself down than it is to let an entire team down.  This is why, in sports, that some of the best times are in team relays, runners and swimmers, not wanting to let their teammates down.

The eighth, and final step is for the leader to ask what part he can play in helping the change process.  Nothing displays the value that a leader has in a teammate, like taking the time for a “teachable moment” session, wrapping up with how can one help.  Criticism of others is easy, and a leader will not partake in idle criticism, but improvement is tough, requiring courage and accepting responsibility.  When a leader sets the bar high, identifies areas of improvement, and takes the time for “teachable moments”, the atmosphere created for the team is one of love, encouragement, expectation and results.  Leaders understand that it is their responsibility to form a team of people willing to grow and change.  Mistakes are a given, but learning and growth are optional.  The eighth step is vital because it let’s the team member know that you are with them, wanting to help them where you can.

Leaders who will follow these eight steps for “teachable moments” will start the process of creating learning organizations, where everyone understands that they must grow and change for the team to accomplish its objectives.  Any leader that avoids “teachable moments” is a leader that is avoiding growth, but any leader who runs around criticizing, without implementing the eight steps, is a leader on his way out of leadership.  Leadership is an art and science, I can explain the eight steps, but I cannot give a person the heart to love his team.  This process is more than just a rote following of the eight steps, but more a loving way to help people identify areas to grow, committing to them time and energy to help them change, creating better results for all involved.  Leaders drive change, and the team changes the most when the team members grow.  Grow yourself first, setting the example of the change process, giving you the credibility to sit down with others, teaching the change process, through the “teachable moments”.  God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Leaving a Leadership Legacy

Posted by Orrin Woodward on January 6, 2011

What does it mean to leave a legacy?  One of the definitions is defined as something handed down from an ancestor, predecessor or from the past.  Leaving a legacy then, means to pay forward into the next generation, the life principles that made a difference in one’s life.  If you learned financial principles that made a difference, then share them with as many other people as possible.  If you learned family principles that helped in raising your family, then share them, leaving a legacy, imparting truth into others lives.  In life, there are many areas to improve, a great start would be the 8F’s – Faith, Family, Friends, Finances, Fitness, Fun, Following and Freedom, are all areas where truth can be imparted to others, leaving a legacy for them.  A legacy is a lifetime gift, offered with no strings attached, in the hope of making a difference in others, even when your earthly life is over. Let’s review the potential legacies, determining what type is the best legacy to give to the next generation.

The first to review is monetary gifts.  Isn’t that a good legacy?  Money is certainly a legacy, but the problem with money, is that the giver will never know how the money was used. Without financial intelligence, money is fleeting, and, even if it last, money can be used to further choices harmful to to the person receiving it. The story of the prodigal spender, blowing his gifted fortune on selfish endeavors, ruining himself by the gift that he could not handle, isn’t surprising news. But there is another, potentially even more destructive use of monetary legacies.  The large trust funds, from the billionaire founders of large companies – Rockefeller’s, Carnegie’s, Ford’s, etc, who started trust funds with specific ideas for their use, but, over time, administrators and bureaucrats, gained control of the money.  Instead of supporting the founders mission, they converted the money to support their pet social programs, many times, in direct opposition to the founders beliefs.  In other words, the founders money, has been turned against themselves, supporting principles and beliefs, that conflict with the principles that helped the founder succeed in the first place.  How ironic is that? Money, then, in my opinion, is a very poor legacy, since the giver never knows who will be spending it in longterm, or upon what it will be spent.

What about fame?  Aren’t they worthy legacies?  Fame is the most fleeting of legacies.  Even while living, people can go from the penthouse to the outhouse, displaying the fickle nature of people, leaving fame a tenuous legacy.  But even worse, what good is fame, without principles?  How many examples do we need of famous actors, musicians, sports starts, or politicians, whose sons and daughters, standing on the brittle foundation of fame, crashed the family legacy into the ground. Fame isn’t an object worth pursuing personally, let alone, leaving to posterity.  Instead of seeking fame, seek excellence, and, if fame comes along with it, so be it.  What can sons and daughters do with their parents fame?  Not much, in the long run.  If, in the pursuit of fame, the children were neglected, the legacy of fame will fade, leaving another example, that excellence must be taught and caught.  Fame, may be included, along with the principles of excellence, but shouldn’t be the main focus of the legacy given to the next generation.  Neither fame, nor fortune, will leave a lasting legacy.

What about power? Certainly, the powerful can leave behind positions of power for posterity?  Power, unless backed by governmental force, cannot last either.  Just a cursory look at the powerful of the past, displays the fleeting nature of power.  Alexander, Caesar, Napoleon, to name just a few, were powerful men, controlling large kingdoms, but their power died with them.  Power isn’t  a legacy worth leaving, since power, without leadership, can only be maintained by the use of force.  How many companies, when handed over to the next generation, succumbed to ruled based force, destroying the leadership based influence of the founder?  Power, without principles, is a dismal legacy, one that history records numerous times of the years.  But, what if, the legacy recipient has leadership ability?  Then the legacy, given to posterity, wasn’t power, but leadership principles, providing the proper foundation to grow the organization. By reviewing the potential legacies, on quickly ascertains, that any gift, without also learning the principles behind the gift, quickly boomerangs upon the receiver, hurting them, more than helping them.  The only legacy truly worth leaving to the next generation is the leadership principles to live a successful and honorable life.  Without a legacy of leadership, everything that is built, will fall apart.  But with it, everything that is built, becomes the foundation, for further growth.  This is a legacy worth leaving to the next generation of leaders.

When analyzing the legacies available to the next generation, one quickly moves past the power, fame, and fortune, into the realm of ideas, the only legacy that truly last.  Ideas have consequences, making or breaking people, depending upon the ideas adopted; therefore, the true legacy given by a leader to posterity, is the lives impacted by the principles taught through thought, word, and deed. Nothing else will stand the test of time, not his fortune, not his fame, nor his power.  This radically redefines the purpose of life.  When a leader learns, that objects sought in life are fleeting, called vanity of vanities by Solomon, then leaving objects for posterity is doubly fleeting.  It’s only the ideas that will survive the test of time.  Ideas, that help people live a life of character, honor, and integrity, leading to leadership that moves society ahead, in a direction honoring to God, family and country, are the true legacies given to posterity.

If leadership is so important to the betterment of society, then why do so few people strive to lead?  The simple answer is that leadership is tough.  It requires people to look honestly at themselves, opening them up to self-criticism, identifying the necessary changes to grow, rather than falling back on self deception and blame.  Remember the pool analogy, where people follow the current created in the pool?  Followers naturally move with the current, regardless of whether the current is moving in the proper direction for leadership growth.  But leaders are different, leaders are Rascals, as Chris Brady taught in his superb book, Rascals.  Leaders follow an inner compass, determining which direction the current should be moving, making a stand against the current and crowd, if necessary, and it typically is necessary.  Standing against the current is a brave act, moving against the current is a leadership act, running against the current, while encouraging others to do the same, reversing the declining current, is a leadership act at the highest of echelons.  Reversing the culture of decline is the pinnacle of leadership.  Learning and doing this, with a plan to pass on the principles to posterity, reversing the current of decline generationally, is what true legacies are all about.  God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Husband, Father, Leader – Play the Man

Posted by Orrin Woodward on January 1, 2011

The following is a synopsis of a talk given at a Men’s Leadership session in North Atlantic Canada.  I hope every person is setting goals for 2011, playing the man or woman. 

In today’s society, young men, wanting to learn character, responsibility, and leadership, are struggling to find role models to follow.  The mainstream media, seems to despise worthy role models, men who have the courage to lead in their families, businesses, and communities; instead, believing this model an anachronism from an unfortunate past.  But what if the mainstream media was wrong, just like they have been on nearly all societal issues over the past century?  What if men, playing their Godly roles, was a necessity for a healthy culture and community?  What if the cultural and moral degradation, that we witness all around us, began when men retreated from the duty owed to wives, families, and communities?  What if a group of men, ignoring the carping of numerous critics, assumed the role assigned to them, providing structure and security in the family, by being the husband, father and leader needed in today’s distressing times.  For the last eighteen years, I have had a front row seat, in living rooms across North America, experiencing first hand, the effects of men not assuming their responsibilities.  I don’t say that pridefully, but only to explain, that few, if any, people in America, share a similar perspective on the front lines of America’s cultural decline.

It wasn’t always this way, duty, a word in ill repute today, meant something to the men of  the past.  Character, honor, fidelity, all words laughed at today, were, in the past, concepts worthy of sacrifice.  Men believed that life without character, honor, and duty, was dissolute, hardly worth living.  Many examples come to mind, describing the concept of duty and honor, but let me share the history of two men with conviction, willing to sacrifice for what they believed.  Both lived in England, during the stormy religious times, Catholics against Anglicans against Puritans, all seeking to learn and live truth in an age where truth still mattered.  In an era, before religious freedoms, it’s easy for us moderns to judge critically the behaviors of all three denominations. But it’s important to remember, that it was the struggles of these three groups, that produced the religious, political, and spiritual freedoms, enjoyed by the colonial Americans, and through them, enjoyed by us today.  It’s important, when studying history, to place yourself in the culture of the times, studying the courage and convictions based upon the culture as it was, not as it is today.

Hugh Latimer and Nicholas Ridley, both preachers and teachers, were both sentenced to burn, if they did not recant their religious positions.  The easy way out of the dilemma would have been to recant, but both Latimer and Ridley were convinced by scripture and reason, that to save themselves, they would be rejecting God and God’s Word.  Latimer and Ridley were tied to opposite sides of a wooden stake, the executioners stacked wood under their feet, preparing to set the whole on fire.  Ridley started to falter, losing his composure under the immense pressure, but Latimer, in a calm assuring tone, shared with his friend, “Be of good comfort, Master Ridley, and play the man; we shall this day light such a candle, by God’s grace, in England, as I trust shall never be put out.”  The deaths of Latimer, Ridley, along with Cranmer, the three known as the Oxford Martyrs, are still commemorated in Oxford, to this day, by the Victorian Martyrs’ Memorial, located near the site where they were executed.

When I think of the great sacrifices that men, believing in their faith, believing in their families, believing in their causes, have made to build the foundation of the privileges and rights that we enjoy, I am moved with respect and awe.  Where are the men today who will “play the man”, loving their wives, as they love themselves.  It takes two to make one good marriage, but men should ensure, that if the marriage is struggling, it isn’t because he hasn’t done everything that he can do.  How many times, have I seen crushed wives, crying over a man-child, a man in body, but a child in responsibilities, wondering if he would ever grow into the man that he was called to be?  How many times, have I witnessed women, reading their tenth book, or more, on marriage relationships, while the first marriage book, lies unread by his bedside?  Men, who, in the former times, sacrificed their time, money, and lives, protecting their families, now, seemingly cannot find the courage within them, to read book, with the goal of protecting and enhancing the marriage.  The words in the marriage covenant, for better or worse, to most men, now means, for better or else.  Men, if you are married tonight, for your wife’s sake, play the man.

Where have all the fathers gone?  Absentee fathers, have created an incalculable loss in millions of young boys and girls lives, growing up without the reassuring protection and leadership of their father.  Just a cursory look at the data, tells the heartbreaking story of radical increases in teenage drop outs, crimes, pregnancies, and suicides.  Mainstream media loves to call the tune, but conveniently, isn’t around when it’s time to pay the piper.  The men, women, and children, are charged with paying the bill, suffering the pain associated with the fractured relationships, while the media runs off on its next social experiment.  We can criticize 19th century North America, mocking their social conservatism, finding fault with their quaint customs, but when looking in the eyes of a deserted wife, left with young children, the denigration of the older way has a hollow ring.  It’s time that every father step to the plate, learning how to lovingly serve their wives, nurturing the children, while providing a disciplined home environment.  Young boys need to know, that they have what it takes inside of them to be men, that when their moment to be a man comes, they will be ready.  Young girls need to know, that their father loves them, willing to protect them against anyone who threatens his princess, until a young prince comes along, willing to defend her honor, in his stead.  This is just one of the many roles of the father, a role that is practically lost today, causing immeasurable harm to so many young men and women.  If you are a father, it’s time for you to play the man.

Where have all the leaders gone.  So many men, checked out of their marriages, checked out on their children, complete the dismal triple crown by checking out of leadership.  You cannot be a bum in one area of your life, while being a star in another. Either, leadership will grow all areas, or lack of leadership, will stunt them. Men must lead their homes, learning the principles of leadership necessary to serve within society.  Because of our warped understanding of leadership, many assume leadership means dictatorship, but nothing could be further from the truth.  Leadership is based upon servanthood, a willingness to serve others, while holding the bar high on themselves and the community.  When a man gets the leadership right in his home, he can then step forward to lead in his community, having the confidence engendered by a stable home.  In order to have men to lead in the homes and society, we must raise up a group of leaders, who accept responsibility.  Males must stop hiding from Goliath, instead, stepping forward to conquer Goliath,  moving on to their God given destiny. We have plenty of males, but not enough true men. As C. S. Lewis wrote in his classic chapter in Abolition of Man, called Men Without Chest, “We make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst. We castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.”

A vital part in the resurgence of North America, is the restoration of American manhood, ending the self-inflicted castration of the male. True servant leadership, based upon character, courage, and convictions, are still alive in a remnant of men.  This remnant has hibernated long enough.  The year 2011, is a call to arms for that remnant.  We can no longer remain inactive.  We can no longer allow our wives and children to be damaged by our lack of leadership.  We can no longer pass the buck.  It’s time to step to the plate.  This is the year, the year that millions of males became men.  Just as Latimer encouraged Ridley, allow me to encourage you, “Be of good comfort, American males, and play the man; we shall in 2011 light such a candle, by God’s grace, in America, as I trust shall never be put out.”  Play the man! God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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The Mouth Speaks

Posted by Orrin Woodward on December 31, 2010

For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. – Matthew 12:34

It’s amazing how much one can learn from a person just by listening.  People who believe that they have a positive attitude, give away their negativity when they speak. I like to begin mentoring sessions with, “Tell me the good, the bad, and the ugly.  The good we will celebrate, the bad we will make adjustments, and the ugly we will pray about.”  This is sure to get people talking, helping me to identify, not just what happened, but how they are thinking about what happened.  Which, in the end, is more important than the event; since the event happens only once, but how they think about the event repeats over and over in their minds and hearts.  Painful experiences happen to both achievers and non-achievers.  The difference is in the responses, achievers learning from the bad cards, choose to draw more; while non-achievers complaining about the cards of life being stacked against them, choose to quit the game.  But what’s actually stacked against them is their own thinking. Winners received the same stimulus, but chose to respond differently than the non-winners.

When something bad happens to a winner, he immediately focuses on minimizing its effects, learning anything he can from the situation.  No pity parties, no woe is me attitudes, just resolution and teachable moments.  The extent a person wins in life, is many times, related to how quickly he can go from problem identified to problem solved, learning through the pain of the process.  When people stay down for weeks, months, sometimes even years at a time, can they honestly expect a positive outcome?  There is only so much mental energy, when it’s spent dwelling on negative thoughts, allowing them to enter the heart, eventually pouring out of the mouth, why is anyone shocked that so little is accomplished in life?  The key is pulling the weeds (negative thoughts) upon entering the mind, not allowing them to move into the heart and out the mouth.  Weeds are much easier to pull when immediately seized when they enter the mind, but much tougher when allowed to root in the heart, eventually flowing out of the mouth.  Don’t provide fertile soil in the mind for weeds; don’t allow weeds to seed into the heart; and whatever you do, don’t allow negative seeds to spread out of your mouth, infecting other people. The former leader literally becoming a carrier of negativity.

Leaders are gardeners of their own minds, identifying and pulling weeds quickly.  True leaders are never down period, choosing to pull weeds promptly.  But if they ever were down, they certainly wouldn’t spread the disease to their communities, since they know that pulling weeds is an inside job.  If a weed is extra difficult, then leaders have the discipline to seek out their mentors for help, refusing to contaminate others with their weed seeds.  One of the first, and most important, assignments of any would-be leader is consistent and prompt pulling of his own weeds.  It’s not an option if he plans on inspiring others, since no one is inspired by a bitter attitude and sour faced person.  Pull your weeds, guard your mind, protect your heart, for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.  Leadership occurs when people having confidence in the leader, if a person’s attitude is unpredictable, he disqualifies himself for leadership, until he learns to pull his own weeds. Leaders are dealers in hope, change, and growth, beginning inside of them.  Perhaps it’s time that we launched a leadership revolution, let’s start the revolution by tending to our own gardens.  God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Creating a Winning Culture Current

Posted by Orrin Woodward on December 29, 2010

Systems make up a big part of living. Think of the different types of systems in life, and the careers available for those who study them.  Scientists study the systems available in nature, learning how the world works, developing similar systems to enhance life. Doctors study the systems in the human body, while veterinarians study animal’s body systems.  Engineers study product and process systems, even creating new systems when creating new products.  But, unless one is specifically in these fields, why take the time to learn about systems?  Mainly, because there is another type of system, one that all human beings are apart of from birth, it’s called the cultural system.  Every human being joins the culture of humanity when born, it’s not optional, and every culture – humanity, business organizations, faith organizations, charities, clubs, etc, have a cultural system that guides the behavior of its members.  The McKinsey organization teaches that culture is “how we do things around here”.  Culture matters, and the more one understands the culture of an organization, the better one can improve the culture, thus improving results.  Without an understanding of systems, it will be hard to study, let alone to change, the culture of organizations.  Just as scientist, doctors, veterinarians, and engineers study and create systems, leaders must study, change, and create cultures. In fact, majoring on culture is one of a leaders most important assignments.

Think of culture in an organization, as a riverbed, directing the flow of the river.  The riverbed set the boundaries of acceptable behaviors, controlling the flow of the water, helping new people move within the cultural river.  Riverbed cultures are fantastic systems to guide behaviors when the riverbed aligns with the behaviors needed within a culture, but imagine if the riverbed is guiding behavior in a direction opposed to the behaviors desired and professed by the organization.  This creates a riverbed cultural issue, where the culture is directing behavior that is opposed to the professed norms and values of the community, creating a misalignment between purpose and actions.  For example, suppose an organization desires to be the best company for service and support in the local market.  Advertisements trumpeting this message are shared throughout the marketplace, slogans are placed in the office, and sales meetings share the importance of follow up on existing customers, ensuring that customers are satisfied, focusing on long term business relationships.  This all sounds great, communicating clearly how important serving existing customers are in the company’s culture, but unless the reward system, for the salesforce, lines up with the culture, it will not change behaviors.  In other words, if rewards only pay for new sales, but not existing sales, then why would the salesmen take apply efforts to service an existing customer, when his pay is increased only when he makes a new sale to a new customer.  Can you see where the riverbed is guiding the behavior in one direction, even though the words and slogan are attempting to guide behaviors in another course?   No amount of slogans, meetings, or advertisements are going to change culture, until the leaders change the riverbed which lead to the actions.

Leaders must study the systematic riverbeds of their respective organizations, determining if the stated beliefs, values, and norms line up with the direction taken by the riverbed.  Leaders can get upset at a communities behavior, punish them, even fire them, but if the riverbed doesn’t align with desired behaviors, the fault isn’t with the people, but with the leadership team responsible for creating the culture and reward systems.  Let’s examine further the organizational cultures.  The reader might be thinking, but I don’t work at a big company, so this doesn’t apply to me.  But remember, cultural systems apply to every organization, everywhere.  Families, churches, clubs, workplaces, businesses, etc, all have cultures.  The sooner one becomes aware of the culture, learning the flow of the water through the riverbed, the quicker one can see if riverbed and behaviors are aligned or if changes are necessary.  Everyone in the community is responsible to help the leaders develop a proper riverbed, because everyone is affected when the riverbed is off course.  One of the best descriptions of the factors that make up the culture (riverbed) of an organization comes from Gerry Johnson, and is called Cultural Webs.  In his article, titled, “Rethinking Incrementalism”, in the 1988 Strategic Management Journal, Johnson defines the paradigm and six elements of the Cultural Web that create the culture of an organization.  One of the goals of a leader is to study the six factors independently and interdependently, learning how each factor can be improved individually, and how they can be improved where they interact with one another.  The leaders objective is to develop the culture by improving how each element ties into the overall message, forming a riverbed that aligns with the deepest beliefs, values, and norms of the organization.

The Paradigm defines what the organization is about, meaning what it does; what’s its mission; what it values. The Cultural Webs are the six factors or elements that combine to fulfill the paradigm.  Here are the six elements with a brief description:

1. Stories – The historical events and people that are talked about inside and outside of the company, creating part of the myths surrounding the company, telling a great deal about what the company’s beliefs, values, and norms are.
2. Rituals and Routines – The daily behaviors that signal actions within the riverbed and those outside of the riverbed.  This creates expectations upon each member of community to behave and act in certain acceptable ways valued by leaders.
3. Symbols – This includes company logos, the layout of offices, power positions at offices and meeting rooms, and formal or informal dress codes.
4. Organizational Structure – This involves the formally defined structures, like organizational charts, and the informally and unwritten power and influence, this is how most leaders get things done, even when structures are broken.
5. Control Systems – This is how the organization is controlled or influenced, including financial systems, quality systems, and rewards.  Rewards communicate what is valued in the company, and are extremely important to align with riverbed.
6. Power Structures – This is where the real power lies in a company, the law of E. F. Hutton – when they speak, people listen. Whether it is one or two key executives, a managing group of executives, or a department, the point is that these leaders have the greatest influence to change operations, strategies, and cultures.

Let’s simplify the idea of culture even further.  Before diving into how to improve each of the factors forming the culture, let’s develop a mental model to simplify how culture is viewed.  Do you remember the game that kids play in the pool, where everyone runs in the same direction, forming a current in the pool, so that the kids can lift their legs and float around the pool, carried by the current they created?  This is an excellent analogy for culture, since the current in the pool performs the same function as the culture does in an organization.  Culture, like the current, is created when people are aligned in beliefs, values, and norms, forming a current that carries people in the proper direction to success.  When people are aligned in a culture, they create a current that helps the new people adopt the cultural norms quickly, flowing with the current in the water.  But, when people aren’t aligned, there is little, if any, current created, forcing people to develop their own beliefs, values, and norms, leaving disunity if not chaos in the pool.  Since there isn’t current (culture) to align the community, the culture becomes a free for all, people showing up, not because they buy into the culture, but only because they buy into paying their bills.  Imagine each organization as a pool when studying the culture.  By studying the stated paradigm for its existence and the six elements that help form the cultural paradigm, one can determine whether the culture current is aligned with the paradigm and elements.  Are the elements creating the proper flow in the pool, or are they confusing, sending mixed messages, hindering the ability of the organization to achieve its stated paradigm?  A leader’s role is to align the elements with the operating paradigm, forming a cultural current that will lead people and the organization to success.

Convergent cultural currents, help explain why two successful cultures, from two successful companies, can combine to create an unsuccessful culture in a struggling company.  Two companies, both successful in their own right, when combined, typically struggle, because the cultural currents fight against one another, creating cognitive dissonance, paralyzing actions and results.  It shouldn’t surprise anyone familiar with the mental model of the pool current. Combining separate cultures is one of the toughest leadership assignments, and shouldn’t be attempted, without a clear understanding of the cultures involved and the steps involved in aligning the cultures into one fast moving current.  There are many good cultures that do things differently, because there isn’t a clear cut right way to build a culture, but, just as in the pool example, everyone must be running in the same direction to create the cultural flow.  If half the people are running in one direction, the other half in another direction, the company is experiencing a cultural civil war, creating disunity, severely damaging the results produced by the organization.  It takes a leader, with tact, systems thinking, and patience to bring the diverse cultures together, uniting them in a common vision, forming common beliefs, values, and norms, which allows the company to thrive again. The leader creates the culture (riverbed), directing the behaviors, and the culture creates the long term results of the organization. Are you working on the culture in your organizations? God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Leadership & Systems Thinking

Posted by Orrin Woodward on December 27, 2010

Have you ever watched a team of mountain climbers scale a cliff?  I have watched with awe as the mountain climbers work together, as a team, to pull of this feat.  Imagine five climbers, all connected together by ropes and pulleys, ensuring the safety of all, scaling a cliff thousands of feet up.  The five climbers are a system, each action by one of the climbers affects the actions of the rest.  No climber could choose to scale the cliff if the others, were resting.  In fact, no four of the climbers could scale the cliff if just one chose to stop.  The ropes magnify the interdependence between the individuals, but with or without the ropes, people in communities are part of a system, being interdependent upon one another.  Each person in a community needs to understand systematic thinking as their actions will affect all others in the community.  Every leader must learn to think systematically in order to lead to his full potential.  Systems thinking is the process of understanding how individual parts influence one another within the entity as a whole. Both nature and organizations are filled with systems.  Nature is filled with ecosystems involving air, water, plants, animals and more in systems to sustain life, while organizational systems consist of people, structures, and processes that interact to produce results.  Whether the results are good or bad depends upon the system interactions orchestrated by the leader.

Remember the story of the elephant and the blind men?  This is an excellent example displaying systems thinking. Read it again, thinking through how portions of truth must be combined (like a system) to gain the entire truth.

Blindmen Elephant pictureOnce upon a time, there lived six blind men in a village. One day the villagers told them, “Hey, there is an elephant in the village today.” They had no idea what an elephant is. They decided, “Even though we would not be able to see it, let us go and feel it anyway.” All of them went where the elephant was. Everyone of them touched the elephant.

“Hey, the elephant is a pillar,” said the first man who touched his leg.

“Oh, no! it is like a rope,” said the second man who touched the tail.

“Oh, no! it is like a thick branch of a tree,” said the third man who touched the trunk of the elephant. 

“It is like a big hand fan” said the fourth man who touched the ear of the elephant. 

“It is like a huge wall,” said the fifth man who touched the belly of the elephant. 

“It is like a solid pipe,” Said the sixth man who touched the tusk of the elephant. 

They began to argue about the elephant and everyone of them insisted that he was right. It looked like they were getting agitated, each blind man wondering how the others could be so stupid. Each believing they had the truth, since he felt it with his own hands. A wise man was passing by and he saw this. He stopped and asked them, “What is the matter?” They said, “We cannot agree to what the elephant is like.” Each one of them told what he thought the elephant was like. The wise man calmly explained to them, “All of you are right and all of you are wrong. The reason each of you is telling it differently is because each one of you touched a different part of the elephant. Each of you has a partial truth.  The elephant has all the features that each of you described, but isn’t fully what you described unless you combine all of your answers.”

Each of the blind men has touched upon a truth of the elephant, but individually, none of them had the whole truth.  If they had spent their time arguing, insisting upon the truth of what they had felt with their own hands, the community would have broken down, forming individual perceptions and not gaining a system perspective of the truth.  Only when each individual learns that they are part of a system, touching upon truth at some point, but probably not touching upon the total systematic truth, will each teammate seek out alternative perspectives.  Many times, disagreements are not really disagreements at all, but just individuals seeing or feeling a different aspect of the system, revealing a portion of the truth, that only when combined yields the whole truth.  System thinking is essential for leaders to help everyone work as a team, gathering all of the facts to accurately model the system they are working on to improve. Without a systems perspective, the leader quickly takes sides with one of his personal favorites, forcing others to comply with his partial interpretation of the truth, killing his credibility, alienating many of his teammates, destroying the motivation to share alternative perspectives in the future.

I love the blind men analogy. If leaders will remember the lesson of the blind men, their ability to solve problems will greatly increase, no longer satisfied with portions of the truth, they will seek out all perspectives to gain a larger view of reality.  Let’s discuss another example of systems thinking.  I believe I heard a version of this story first from Stephen Covey.  Covey uses the example of a fishermen going to a river to enjoy a day of fishing, but just minutes after getting there, he sees a young boy flailing his arms in the middle of the river, screaming for help. The fishermen jumps in and save him.  The boy is healthy, so the fishermen starts fishing, but fifteen minutes later, a young girl is flailing her arms, yelling for help, in the middle of the river.  The fishermen saves her also.  At this point, he ponders what the odds are, that two people would need saving on the same day.  Fifteen minutes later, when a third child needs to be rescued, he is certain that there must be more to the picture (system), than he is touching upon.  At this point, he starts asking questions, no longer believing that the children who needed rescuing, are isolated events.  He believes there is more to this system than is meeting his eyes. The fishermen, deciding to solve the cause at its roots, not just continue to trim at the leaves, walks upstream, discovering a children’s camp.  The fishermen finds that the local bully, doing what bullies do, was throwing kids in the river every fifteen minutes, and would continue to do so, until everyone surrendered their money.  The fishermen, a true problem solver, took the bully by the ear, walked him into the camp office, solved the root cause of the problem (the bully), and enjoyed the remaining fishing time in peace.

I know the example is simplistic, but it does capture the main points in systematic thinking.  Many times in life, people run from emergency to emergency, never stopping to think if the emergencies are related systematically.  The simple system described above included the boys and girls, the bully, the river, and the fishermen downstream.  The fishermen would have had a busy day, if he hadn’t solved the problem at its root.  You can stay busy your entire life, but unless you are solving problems at the root, nothing of long-term consequence is being solved.  Busy is not the goal, but productivity is.  As Covey teaches, one can trim the leaves for life, but if you wish to eliminate a tree, one must attack the roots.  Toyota has a problem solving system that helps discover the root causes, called the Five Whys.  It teaches that most root causes are at least five questions removed from the issue that is being addressed at the moment.  The root cause is usually not the first why, but, if one will keep asking questions, the root cause will typically be revealed.

For example, if someone slips and falls on a slippery factory floor, breaking their arm in the process, the quick solution is to order a cleaning crew to work more hours, cleaning the floors daily to ensure a non-slippery surface.  A non-slippery floor is the right answer, but before hiring extra people, spending money and time on the problem, the Five Why’s would attempt to discover the root cause (like the bully in example above).  Leaders aren’t happy with just trimming the leaves, while the root cause remains unaddressed and will use the Five Why’s to help determine the root issues.  The Five Whys in this example would go something like this:

Q: Why did the man slip and fall?
A: Because the ground was slippery.
Q: Why was the ground slippery?
A: Because there was oil on the floor.
Q: Why was there oil on the floor?
A: Because one of the machines was leaking oil.
Q: Why was the machine leaking oil?
A: Because an oil pan bolt was loose.
Why was the oil pan bolt loose?
A: Because the machine vibrated the bolt loose.
Q: Why did the machine vibrate the bolt loose?
A:  Because the shaft bearing is worn out in the machine.
Q: Why is the shaft bearing worn out in the machine?
A: Because maintenance hasn’t changed it and it is past it’s useable life.
Q: Why haven’t they changed out the old bearing?
A: Because we cut all preventative maintenance in a cost cutting measure.

The Five Why’s has revealed the systematic issue in the factory system, not just the obvious answer of cleaning up the oil.  When the preventative maintenance program was eliminated, in an effort to save money, it brought upon other effects, not clearly understood at the time.  If another department has to hire more cleaning crews, or paying overtime to existing ones, then we have not really saved any money, but still have a maintenance issue.  This only compounds the factories problems further, having not understood the systematic effects of the choices made.  Trimming the leaves by cutting preventative maintenance, but causing a bigger root problem, by machines failing over time. Without the proper machine maintenance, further degradation is inevitable, leading to more trimming leaves behavior, while the root cause, the improper maintenance, ruins the productivity and safety of the entire factory.  Only when the leader thinks systematically, will the root cause be revealed.  Preventative maintenance will be reinstated; machines run with quality bearings; the bolts will stay tight; the oil remains in the pan; and people can walk the floor without endangering their safety.  The factory is a system, every action performed by one department will have effects on numerous others departments.  It’s only when the leader thinks of the entire system (elephant above), that the entire truth will be revealed, leading to decisions made upon the total systems, not just the partial truths that each department feels. God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Fine Art of Friendship

Posted by Orrin Woodward on December 24, 2010

True friendship is a fine art.  When you find a true friend, a friend that will be there when the chicken hits the fan, be sure to count your blessings.  Many people will live their whole life with nothing more than acquaintances, rather than friendships.  Because friends respect one another, it naturally leads to leadership influence in respective areas of expertise.  In order to lead people properly, one must love the person, as a fellow human being, believing in his/her goals and dreams.  In other words, friendship must come before leadership, forming an authentic speed of trust relationship. Without love for people, leadership can quickly degrade into manipulation, causing damage to the leaders heart and the community’s future.  Chris Brady and I wrote an entire book on leadership, our #1 best seller, Launching a Leadership Revolution, a must read for anyone in the leadership field.  If you haven’t read that book, be sure to do so, because the principles taught here will come to life, at a new level, when combined with the LLR teachings.  

Before diving into the details of this chapter, let’s examine our hearts.  Why do you want to lead?  Do you care for the people or just the prestige associated with leadership?  Are you willing to sacrifice for the team when necessary?  Although there are many rewards for leaders, at the end of the day, leadership is about service to others, not about perks for self.  Leaders must love people and use things, not love things and use people. This is foundational for all long-term leadership, love is the glue that holds communities together during the struggles to success .  When a community doesn’t feel loved, believing they are just part of the machine, they will stay only for material rewards. In the past, that may have worked, but in today’s competitive marketplace, communities will surpass individuals every time.

Since friendship comes before leadership, let’s begin our study with the key principles to develop authentic friendships.  Remember, these are principles, not techniques, being more a matter of the heart than just the physical actions.  Applying the techniques, without the right heart, will come off as inauthentic, hurting the relationship.  But with the right heart, following the principles suggested, anyone can build relationships that will last a lifetime, leading to the joy associated with true fellowship, creating a foundation for leadership excellence.  When gathering with true friends for a night of fellowship, food, and fun, the laughter and learning brings happiness to all that are present, because the friendship is founded upon trust developed through proper application of the friendship principles.  Friends allow you to relax and be yourself, knowing that you will be loved, faults and all. If you want great friendships that will last a lifetime, then be a great friend first. There are several books that I recommend to help in becoming a true friend to others.  The first is Dale Carnegie’s classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People and the second is Les Giblin’s, How to Have Confidence and Power with People.  These two books did more for me, in relating to people, than any other people skills books.  With these books and the six principles that I am about to share, you will radically transform your relationships.

The first principle in developing healthy relationships is to learn that people are drawn to happy open people, not unhappy closed people.  By following the resolutions discussed previously in this book, one will find greater happiness in life.  Happiness isn’t something to be sought directly, but is found indirectly by applying personal discipline to a worthwhile goal or dream. Having a positive attitude is one of the quickest ways to draw people towards you.  Attitude is a magnet that draws or repels, depending upon whether it’s a positive or negative one.  Resolution #3 covers positive attitude and EQ, so I won’t go into much detail here, but refer back to it for further comments on attitude.  A second factor in drawing people to you is the power of a genuine smile.  Smiling is part of the universal language for the world,  communicating happiness and openness.  When traveling internationally, even when one doesn’t speak the language, a baby smiling can bring smiles and cheerfulness to all around them.  When people see you smile, it’s surprising how many people will smile right back at you. If you believe that you are happy, but aren’t smiling, please notify your face.

Another key to communicate openness and approachability is personal appearance.  How you dress and groom communicates to others how you feel about yourself.  Dress for success is more than just a catch phrase.  Grooming for success is just as important.  For example, if you have breath that would knockout a camel cold, get some breath mints, gum, or mouth wash.  Body odor is another quick way to communicate that you are unapproachable.  If they can’t get within ten feet of you without gasping, it might be difficult for you to nurture a longterm friendship.  First impressions, whether we like it or not, do have a huge impact on our ability to have a second impression.   Being approachable means that you attitude mentally, your smile and smells physically, and your looks aesthetically communicate friendliness to others.  If you are not sure how you are doing, ask your spouse or close friend.  Allow them to speak honestly, with the goal being to improve in openness and approachability.

The second principle in developing people skills is to take a genuine interest in others. What is a person’s favorite subject to talk about?  If you guessed themselves, then you just won the jackpot.  Friendships are based upon mutual interests, so learning about others interests is a key step in the process of nurturing relationships.  For example, a person’s name is sweet to their ears.  When you meet people, be sure to take the time to learn, and pronounce their name properly.  Even, if you have to ask them to repeat their name, they won’t be offended as it displays an interest in them.  With a name like Orrin, I have had to repeat my name many times, but I was always impressed when someone took the time to get my name right.  The best way to do this is to say it several times during the conversation, complimenting them by your care to remember their name, and, through repetition, storing it into memory.

One of the quickest ways to display an interest in others is to listen to them.  Stephen Covey titled it, “seek first to understand, then be understood.”  You have two ears and one mouth, let’s use them in that proportion.  I find that I learn much more when I listen, rather than talk. I believe you will discover this too.  Ask questions and then listen.  What questions you ask?  Why not start with the FOR method – Family, Occupation, and Recreation? These are great starter questions to get someone talking about themselves, helping you learn more about them.  For example, if you just met John and he is a dentist, ask, “John, how did you get into the dental field?”  I love hearing the stories develop after that question.  Whether is was a parent who encouraged them, a friend in the field, or a dream from childhood, it’s fascinating to learn people’s stories.  All stories have a dream, struggle, victory component, and as I listen, I am listening for the key struggles that were overcome.  Afterwards, I can point out to them how they played like a champion, finishing what they started.   Usually, during the discussion, the new friend will pause, realizing that he has been doing most of the talking, and will probably need encouragement to continue.  Remember, he is used to people only talking, not listening, so he is probably wondering what is wrong with you.

Cultivate listening into one of your most developed skills.  A genuine interest in others will come through in your conversations, taking listening to the highest level of active listening.  Active listening is the key to help others feel comfortable talking while intently listening.  Stay focused on them, looking them in the eyes, nodding with understanding, empathizing with the success story being shared.  In order to learn more of the dream, struggle, victory life story, you may need to ask questions during the active listening process.  Questions like: “Really, why is that?”; “Serious?”; “What kept you going?”;  “And then what happened?”; “No kidding?”; “That’s amazing!”; “Unbelievable”; How did you keep going?”, and many other short comments to inspire other to talk while you actively listen. I know, this isn’t rocket science, but listening skills are the most effective and underutilized people skill. I want to ensure everyone understands the importance of drawing others out, as nothing bonds people to you as quickly as active listening does, since nothing compliments a person more than taking a genuine interest in them.  I have found over the years that I have learned much more by listening to others, and, when I was ready to talk, I had their undivided attention.  I like to learn from experience, but if I listen well, I can learn from others experience also, not having to repeat the same lesson that others have taken for me.   By listening to others, you learn from experience – their experiences, saving you time and money.  To sum up, applying active listening skills, when you meet others, displays a genuine interest in them, paying a huge compliment by listening and learning valuable lessons along the way.

The third principle in developing true friendship is finding value in others.  Before people will find value in you, they typically must first feel valued by you.  This can create a chicken and the egg scenario where each person is waiting for the other to value them.  I have witnessed so many discussions where each person attempts to one up the other by rolling out his list of achievements.  Instead, let the person share their achievements and be truly impressed.  By giving relationship oxygen to the other side, they can breathe easier and listen after you have valued them. Let’s stop the crazy cycle by valuing others first, it cost nothing (unless your self pride is more important than others self worth), but it pays huge dividends.  How does one find value in others?  Les Giblin, the author of How to Have Confidence and Power with People, give the Triple A formula that is pure gold in relationships: Accept, Approve, and Appreciate.  I encourage you to read over and over again, Chapter 6 of Giblin’s book covering the three A’s.  It really is that good!  Let me share an overview of the Triple A formula here to help define the terms and start the learning process.

Acceptance from one human being to another creates peace, allowing one to relax and open up.  When someone is constantly judging everything said and done, it doesn’t allow the other person to relax, making friendship nearly impossible.  Acceptance does not mean you approve of everything that the person does, but you will never influence anyone that you don’t accept as a human being first.  I have found, that only after accepting the person as they are, that it frees them up to become what they want to be.  A mentor’s acceptance brings peace and joy, allowing the other person some breathing space to develop personally.  Acceptance to the soul is like food for the body, giving people nourishment, providing energy for further improvement. By accepting people as they are, they start desiring further food, creating a process of growth, nurtured along by your acceptance of them.  Most people get this wrong, thinking they cannot accept someone until they do everything right.  The problem with this is that no one does everything right, leaving all of us unaccepted, if everyone thought this way.  All of us need to grow, I certainly know that I do, but when people accept me for the way I am, this gives me the soul nourishment to keep moving on.  Since we have a full time project in working to improve ourselves, we should judge lightly the faults of others.  How many people in your life are you feeding with acceptance?

Approval moves beyond acceptance of the person into approval of specific actions and talents.  While acceptance is more an absence of negatives, approval is the recognition of a person’s positives.  In the Triple A formula spelled out in Giblin’s book, I view acceptance as the appetizer, approval as the main dish, and appreciation as the dessert, in the buffet for the human soul.  In order to approve someone, you must be looking for the attributes that you respect and admire in others.  I believe the reason most people do not take the time to approve of others is because they are too busy seeking acceptance, approval and appreciation for themselves.  When you can get over yourself, you will be in a much better position to help others get over themselves.  Focus everyday, on pointing out to those closest to you, the things that you respect and admire about them.  Approval is like oil in an engine, making everything run smoother with less friction.  Interestingly, approval has more of an impact, when the approval is in a less than obvious attribute.  For example, pointing out to a professional car racer that you admire the way he drives won’t have the same impact as pointing out you admire his relationship with his children.  Be a professional observer of excellence in others, and then point it out!  Most, so preoccupied with themselves won’t observe, but even if you do observe, it only reaches the other person by sharing your positive observations. What is the point of observing without sharing?  How many people are you approving in your life?

Appreciation is the dessert in relationship foods for the soul.  When you appreciate someone, you communicate to them that they are special to you, not just another face in the crowd.  Appreciate is the opposite of depreciate.  When something depreciates, it loses its value; but when something appreciates, it gains in value.  Are you appreciating those closest to you?  Are you increasing the value of your friends and family by appreciating them?  Little things make all the difference here.  When you set an appointment, be on time as that communicates you value the other person.  Another is to thank people personally for a job well done.  Single out what you appreciate about them as a person and in their work, making them feel special and separated from the crowd.  If you really want to appreciate others, then share all the good you can about them to others.  When others do great work, share your appreciation, not just with them, but to everyone that they know.  This is the proper use of talking behind someone else’s back, all the good that you know about them.  Everyone wants to feel accepted, approved, and appreciated, sadly most people believe condemning, criticizing, and complaining will help to change people, but nothing could be further from the truth.  You catch more bees with honey than you ever will with vinegar, so put away the vinegar for good, and start attracting people to you through the Giblin’s Triple A formula.

The fourth principle to build lifelong friendships is building a shared vision of the future.  Friendships are based upon shared experiences, the more positive experiences that people share together, the more friendships are strengthened.  Conversely, when friends lack a common vision, they lose shared experiences and eventually lose the bonds that drew them together in the first place.  All of us have had friends from high school that didn’t continue, having lost the common vision (geting out of school), and the shared experiences.  Lifetime friends are different, they are built upon common visions that last longer than the high school or job where they met.  My lifetime friends all have strengths and weaknesses (just as I do), but friends magnify each others strengths, while protecting each others weaknesses.  Few people think through why they have the friends that they have, but essentially, friends build social communities, providing value to each other by leveraging each others strengths and enjoying each others company.  In other words, the friends that you have, you have because you admire certain strengths that they possess, enhancing your life by the strengths in their life.  In the same way, your strengths increase your friends enjoyment and success on their journey of life. Shared visions, shared experiences, shared strengths while protecting weaknesses, forms the recipe for long lasting enjoyment for both parties in life long friendships.

But in life, struggles will occur, blurring the common vision.  Friends will need empathy from one another to endure the hardships thrown at them.  When a friend is hurting, its important to be there for them, listening to his situation, understanding his pain, empathizing with him, while redirecting his focus to solutions. Friends must learn to reframe the struggles in each others lives, giving a better perspective to help friends endure.  When friends fall into a pit, it’s your responsibility to help them find the way out. A true friend empathizes with, but never sympathizes with their friends struggles.  Meaning, friends will feel each others pain, but not jump into the pit with each other.  Instead, friends throw  ropes down into the pit to help their friends get out.  Listen, understand, empathize, but then reframe and help them move ahead.  All friends will go through challenges, but a true friend helps them see the light at the end of the tunnel of darkness.  Friends will remember that when the chicken hit the fan in their life, that you took the time to be there, creating bonds of friendship that will stand the test of time.  Friends who help each other in times of need are rare, so hold onto these friends.  I count a person’s real wealth to be in the quality of friends developed, not monetary net worth developed. Are you a priceless friend to your friends?

Fidelity to the reputation and character of one’s friends is another key principle in enduring friendships.   What is friendship if it isn’t loyal to one another when needed?  Loyalty to friends doesn’t mean, my friend right or wrong, but it does mean my friend, let’s help him do right.  A true friend doesn’t exit the scene when life gets tough, rather, he enters more boldly to help out.  Fair weather friends are not really friends at all.  It takes real courage to stick by people when they’re dealt painful cards in life, but that’s exactly when true friend are needed.   When someone hurts a friend, they hurt all his friends as friends stick together.  In this situation, friends must rally together to focus on resolving the dispute between friends.  If your friend is following the conflict resolution principles, but the other side isn’t, then the other side will know they have violated your friendship as well.  Conversely, if your friend is not following conflict resolution guidelines, you must sit down in love and loyalty and speak truth to them with the hope that both sides will follow the appropriate principles.  Friends have a responsibility to be loyal to their friends, abandoning a friendship only when a friend abandons truth repeatedly, creating a situation where defending your friend would put you on the side of untruth.  Even in this situation, I let my former friend know that restoration is possible when truth is restored in his life and our relationship. Loyalty, fidelity and honor are not used much in today’s society, but life long friendships must be based upon them.  In my opinion, next to truth itself, loyalty is the most valued principle in a true friendship, forming the glue that holds friendships together during the storms of life.

Lastly, friends celebrate each others victories together.  Can you be as excited for a friends victory as you are your own?  This is essential for true friendships as friends should be each others greatest cheerleaders.  Friends are not jealous of one another, nor suffer from envy, but do all they can to lift their friends up.  Friends aren’t competitors, but huge fans and encouragers of one another.  Why wouldn’t you celebrate when a friend succeeds at any worthy endeavor?  A friends victory lifts the tide for everyone surrounding them.  Friends dream together, laugh together, struggle together, have victories together, and celebrate together.  Be the biggest cheerleader of your friends successes.  Let your friends know how much you admire their strengths, sharing your thankfulness to be part of their lives. This will form bonds of loyalty, letting your friends know that you are proud of their successes, and proud to be their friend.  Friends lift one another up when they are together, but also are the biggest cheerleaders of each other when they aren’t together as well.  Be the type of friend, who cheers their accomplishments behind their backs, sharing all the good that you know about them.  No one is an island unto themselves, having friends who cheer one another’s successes is essential in making life meaningful and fruitful.

True friendship is a lost art in today’s “Me” generation, but that only increases the value of a friend when you really find one.  The best way to find friends of this caliber is to be one to others.  In life, if someone identifies a couple of friends of this quality, then he is a blessed man.  Make a personal commitment to give more to each relationship than you receive.  This is much tougher to do in practice when you find true friends as they are focusing on giving more than they receive.  Friendship brings so much joy into life and should be cultivated daily.  Conversely, damaged relationships bring so much pain to life, and should be resolved quickly.  The older I get, the more I realize that my real wealth is in my faith, family, and friends, making me more conscious to nurture the relationships that have brought so much joy into my life.  In today’s world of feckless and fickle friends, give to others a friendship based upon fidelity and faithfulness. God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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Upgrading Mentors on Success Journey

Posted by Orrin Woodward on December 15, 2010

Here is the final audio from Art Jonak, Orjan Saele, and me discussing the mentoring process.  I hope you enjoyed this series. God Bless, Orrin Woodward

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